In a recent interview*, the guest asked the audience this question:

How much has invalidating yourself cost you?

It’s worth thinking about.

Invalidating yourself means thinking less of yourself without any evidence. It means downplaying your potential.

It might include thoughts like:

I am not a leader.

I am not good at business.

I am just a good follower.

I am not a good speaker.

I am not athletic.

I am not outgoing.

I am not a good provider/saver/parent/spouse.

People think I am awkward.

Only you know in what areas you might be invalidating yourself. And the cost can be steep.

Invalidation keeps you out of the game. It keeps you playing at a lower level. It narrows what you can experience and limits what you can achieve.

The harsh truth is that we only play at the level at which we have given ourselves permission.

You would never let your kids, family, or team members invalidate themselves. You know it would cut off their potential. The same is true of you. Don’t count yourself out. The world needs your undiluted, best self. Not to give that is selfish.

*the interviewee is one of Grant Cardone’s mentors, Bob Duggan.